Sunday, October 31, 2010

Get Rid of Procrastination – once & for all

 

Get Rid of Procrastination – once & for all
by Jane Powell
“Finish what you begin.”
When you make a heart-felt decision to finish something meaningful and, then, do it, something amazing happens. You feel energized and all the worry and fear that you felt in the beginning miraculously disappears.
Your mind is free! You no longer feel guilty. The burden is gone and you don’t beat yourself up for avoiding what needed to be done.
In the end, when you finish what you begin, you’re naturally motivated to do more. So, if you feel like quitting, keep in mind that wonderful feelings are waiting at the end of every meaningful task.
Just for you!

 

Isn't Your Bag Heavy Enough?

One of my teachers had each one of us bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes. For every person we'd refuse to forgive in our life experience, we were told to choose a potato, write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag. Some of our bags, as you can imagine, were quite heavy.
We were then told to carry this bag with us everywhere for one week, putting it beside our bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to our desk at work.
The hassle of lugging this around with us made it clear what a weight we were carrying spiritually. We were constantly reminded how we had to pay attention to it all the time. We could not forget the bag and kept putting our bag in embarrassing places. Naturally, the condition of the potatoes deteriorated to a nasty slime.
This was a great metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity! Too often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person and it clearly is for ourselves as much as anyone!
So the next time you decide you can't forgive someone, ask yourself... Isn't your bag heavy enough?
 

 

In just one moment of simply being, is enough unique richness to echo for a thousand lifetimes. Open your mind, your heart and your senses, and feel the warm, peaceful treasure.
Beyond desire, beyond need, is the beauty that is always here. Gently settle into the all-encompassing abundance.
There is a great fortune that is already yours. To touch it and make magnificent use of it, just be truly thankful for this moment you have in which to be.
What you are tempted to worry about is nothing compared to what you have and what you can do. The limitless abundance of being is here and now, today.
Feel fully the incomparable feeling of life in all its endless variety. Ride the delightful, refreshing waves of possibility.
In this beautiful moment, you are. Here, now, live your great fortune.
Ralph Marston

 

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Journey into this Lesser Known World

 

Journey into this Lesser Known World
by Jane Powell
 
“It is impossible to listen when you’re talking.’
 
The ability to keep quiet is one of the keys to successfully listening, both in daily life and when seeking communication from within.
 
Unfortunately, inner quiet is unusual for most of us. Even when alone, we talk to ourselves: we hear the sounds of our own thoughts, remember musical melodies, and so on. We become easily distracted by random memories, noises and other intrusions.
 
When you learn to listen, it becomes easier to relax. Your mind clears more quickly and attentiveness to environment is enhanced. As you allow yourself to listen, thoughts become less random and more controllable – and, most important, you hear plainly what’s going on inside.
 

Today will soon be over. Yet the value you create while it is still here will be with you for a long time to come.
Today, there are hurts that you can heal. Today, there are disagreements that you can transform into understanding.
Today, there are challenges and problems that can, through your efforts, become positive achievements. Today, there are weaknesses that can, through your attention and persistence, become strengths.
Today, there are visions that can be forged into reality. Today, there are small moments that can become treasured memories.
Today, there are joys that can be brought to life. Today, there is love that can grow ever stronger.
Today is a day that is filled with possibilities. See how many of the best of them you can bring to life. 



 
Negative assumptions drive negative experiences. Negative assumptions can become so thoroughly familiar and ingrained in your thinking that you don't even realize they're there.
Assumptions guide your perceptions, and your perceptions determine the way you respond to each situation. It's important to make sure those assumptions are not working against you.
 
When you come upon a situation that seems negative, challenge yourself to explain to yourself why you consider it to be negative. There's a good chance that you'll discover your own assumptions are making it worse than it really is.
 
When you assume that something is distracting, or painful, or annoying, it will be. Yet you can significantly change things by letting go of the assumption, or by choosing a more empowering one.
 
Just because you've always assumed something, does not make it always true. Make the effort to be more aware of your assumptions, and challenge them.
 
With a new set of assumptions, the same old situation could be completely different. And you'll suddenly see a whole new world of possibilities.
 
Ralph Marston


 

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Friday, October 29, 2010

You’ll Wonder Why You Didn’t Do this Sooner



You’ll Wonder Why You Didn’t Do this Sooner
by Jane Powell
 
“Your appointment is confirmed.”
 
You set appointments all the time, with doctors, dentists, accountants, contractors and hair salons. More often than not the appointments you set actually take place. Once in a while you have to cancel an appointment, but that’s okay, because you reschedule it and place the new date and time on your calendar.
 
There’s one person, though, that you might never think to set an appointment with. That person is you!
 
Why not schedule an appointment with yourself and write it on your calendar? Schedule some time to do something fun with yourself. Make it a definite date.
 
When the time comes, keep the appointment, just as you would any other. After a few appointments with the all-important you, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.


 

Whatever you do again and again turns into a habit. And your habits have a profound effect on the quality of your life.
Look honestly at what you do each day. What things are moving you forward, and what things are you doing that keep holding you back?
 
Your actions are yours to control. And your habits are yours to develop or abandon.
 
Though habits rarely come or go overnight, you can indeed choose and control them. Add an empowering habit, or get rid of a destructive one, to dramatically improve your life.
 
Even a small positive habit will make a big difference. Because each time you do it, you steadily add more power to it.
 
Think of what you can do, beginning right now, to add a habit of success to your life. And watch as that small success, done again and again, turns into plenty of big achievements.
 


 

Eventually and reliably, the fear of loss creates the reality of loss. That's because when you focus on your fear, you give energy and fulfillment to that fear.
The moment you begin to feel the fear of loss, stop. Take that powerful energy and redirect it.
 
Instead of obsessing over what you could lose, imagine what you can create. Visualize the magnificent details of the best outcome you can imagine.
 
When your thoughts are completely filled with positive purpose, there is no room for fear. Direct the power of your mind toward what you desire.
 
Create a believable, realistic scenario that takes you from where you are to where you would most like to be. Expand on it again and again with rich detail.
 
You'll encounter very real opportunities to bring your vision to life. Instead of focusing on fear, focus on your best possibilities, and as you do you'll make them happen.
 
Ralph Marston



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Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Enthusiasm

 

When enthusiasm strikes, you know because you
Want to jump up and down and scream with
Happiness.  It's a moment when your heart soars
Because you have just felt or done something that
Inspires you deep within.

Enthusiasm is where your body screams with
Excitement and you hear that "Yes !"  from deep
Inside.  It's one of the best feelings in the world.

Today, no matter what your rational mind says look
And listen for places, events, ideas, people and
Activities that make your heart shout a loud "Yes!"
Next, spend some time deciding how to bring more of
Those into your life.

Make a commitment to yourself to do the things you
Need to do to live a more enthusiastic life.  When
You're enthusiastic you look forward to each and
Every day.  And, that is what makes life so fun!
 

 

The Secret of Happiness
 
 
The secret of happiness is to be free of fear.
 Fear is like a toxin that runs through
 much of our thinking. It feeds on
insecurity, feeling of loss, loneliness,
inadequacy and attachment. You are loveable
 and loving. Accept this as Truth.
Appreciate and care for yourself - truly,
 deeply, intensely, in a way that
reflects your real value. Then
you will automatically have the same regards
for all other living beings and things.

 

Chosen feelings
The situation does not create the feeling. You create whatever feeling you wish to feel in each particular situation.
Why are some people happy and other people sad in the same circumstance? Because that is how they have chosen to be.
 
When you respond the same way often enough it becomes a habit that you follow without even thinking. In this way your feelings come to seem automatic, even though they never have to be.
 
The way you feel was at some point a conscious choice. And you can choose to change, or let go of, or expand what you feel, or to create an entirely new feeling.
 
The connection between the moment and the feeling is made by you. Always, you can feel the feelings that serve you best, the ones that pull you toward true and magnificent fulfillment.
 
Your feelings profoundly influence the life you experience, and those feelings are yours to choose in any moment. Choose the ones that give real power to the purpose that lives within you.
 
Ralph Marston

 

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Teruntuk Ukhti yang Tengah Menanti


Saudariku yg tengah menanti datangnya tambatan hati,Ijinkanlah saya berbagi dalam goresan tulisan inijika menurut teman-teman baik, maka ambillah..dan jika menurut teman-teman buruk, maka tinggalkanlah…

saudariku muslimah…


wanita muslimah laksana bunga yang menawan…
wanita muslimah yang sholehah bagaikan sebuah perhiasan yang tiada ternilai harganya….
Begitu indah…
begitu berkilau…

begitu menentramkan..

begitu menyejukkan…
Teramat banyak yang ingin meraih bunga tersebut…
Namun tentunya….tak sembarang orang berhak meraihnya….menghirup sarinya….

hanya yang dia yang benar-benar terpilihlah…yang dapat memetiknya, yang dapat meraih pesonanya…dengan harga mahal yang teramat suci, sebuah ikatan amat indah bernama pernikahan…

Karena itu, sebelum saatmu tiba... sebelum orang terpilih itu datang dan menggandengmu dalam istananya…

janganlah engkau biarkan dirimu layu sebelum masanya…
jangan kau biarkan serigala liar menjadikanmu bahan permainan dalam keisengannya…
jangan kau biarkan kumbang berebutan menghisap madumu…
jangan kau biarkan mereka mengintipmu diam-diam dan menikmati pesonamu dlm kesendiriannya….

Jangan kau biarkan ia permainkan hatimu yg rapuh atas nama taaruf…atas nama cinta…

Ya…atas nama cinta…

Kau tau saudariku…??
Jika seseorang jatuh cinta, maka cinta akan membungkus seluruh aliran darahnya... membekuknya dalam jari-jarinya, dan menutup semua mata, hati dan pikirannya….
Membuat seseorang lupa akan prinsipnya….
Membuat seseorang lupa akan besarnya fitnah ikhwan-akhwat…
Membuat seseorang lupa akan apa yang benar dan apa yang seharusnya ia hindarkan…
Membuat seseorang itu lupa akan apa yang telah ia pelajari sebelumnya tentang batasan-batasan pergaulan ikhwan akhwat…

Membuat seseorang menyerahkan apapun, supaya orang yang ia cintai "bahagia” atau ridho terhadap apa yang ia lakukan…

Membuat orang tersebut lupa…bahwa cinta mereka belum tentu akan bersatu dlm pernikahan..


Ya saudariku….ukhty fillah…

Jangan sampai cinta menjerumuskanmu dlm lubang yg telah engkau tutup rapat sebelumnya.
Karena itu…jika engkau mulai menyadari adanya benih-benih cinta mulai tertanam lembut dalam hatimu yang rapuh…segeralah…buat sebuah benteng yang tebal…yang kokoh.Tanam rumput beracun disekelilingnya... Pasang semak berduri di muara-muaranya.

Cinta sejati hanyalah pada Rabbul Izzati. Cinta yang takkan bertepuk sebelah tangan. Namun Allah tidak egois mendominasi cinta hamba-Nya. Dia berikan kita cinta kepada anak, istri, suami, orang tua, kaum muslimin…


Cinta begitu dasyat pengaruhnya jika engkau tau...
Karena itu, jika engkau mulai menyadari adanya benih-benih cinta mulai tertanam lembut dalam hatimu yang rapuh…segeralah…buat sebuah benteng yang tebal…yang kokoh… Tanam rumput beracun disekelilingnya…
Pasang semak berduri di muara-muaranya….
Berlarilah menjauhinya…menjauhi orang yang kau cintai….

Buat jarak yang demikian lebar padanya….

jangan kau berikan ia kesempatan untuk menjajaki hatimu…

Biarlah air mata mengalir untuk saat ini, Karena kelak yang akan kalian temui adalah kebahagiaan…
biarlah sakit ini untuk sementara waktu…

biarlah luka ini mengering dengan berjalannya kehidupan…


Karena…cinta tidak lain akan membuat kalian sendiri yang menderita…
Kalian sendiri…

Saudariku,
tentunya sudah mengerti dan paham bagaimana rasanya jika sedang jatuh cinta…
jika dia jauh, kita merasa sakit karena rindu…

jika ia dekat, kita merasa sakit karena takut kehilangan….

padahal…ia belum halal untukmu dan mungkin tidak akan pernah menjadi yang halal…


karena itu, jauhilah ia…

jangan kau biarkan dia menanamkan benih-benih cinta di hatimun dan kemudian mengusik hatimu…

jangan kau biarkan dia mempermainkanmu dalam kisah yang bernama cinta…


maka…bayangkanlah keadaan ini…tentang suamimu kelak…


sahabatku…
sukakah engkau..??
apabila saat ini ternyata suamimu (kelak) sedang memikirkan wanita yang itu bukan engkau..???
sukakah engkau..?? bila ternyata suamimu (kelak) saat ini tengah mengobrol akrab, tertawa riang, becanda, saling menatap, saling menggoda,saling mencubit,saling memandang dengan sangat…saling menyentuh…???
dan bahkan lebih dari itu…??

sukakah engkau saudariku…??

sukakah engkau bila ternyata saat ini suamimu (kelak) sedang jalan bersama gadis lain yang itu bukan engkau…??


sukakah engkau…?? bila saat ini suamimu (kelak) tengah berpikir dan merencanakan pertemuan berikutnya ?
tengah disibukkan oleh rencana-rencana apa saja yang akan ia lakukan bersama gadis itu…??

tidak cemburukah engkau temanku..?? bila saat ini suamimu (kelak) sedang makan bareng bersama gadis lain, atau bahkan segerombolan gadis lain..?
suamimu (kelak) saat ini sedang digoda oleh gadis-gadis..
suamimu (kelak) sedang ditelepon dengan mesra…

suamimu (kelak) saat ini sedang dicurhatin gadis-gadis yang berkata…”aku tak bisa jika sehari tak mengobrol dengamu…”


tidak cemburukah…?? tidak cemburukah…?? tidak cemburukaaaaahhhhhhhh……???


tidak terasa bagaimanakah...jika suamimu (kelak) saat ini tengah beradu pandangan, bercengkrama, bercerita tentang masa depannya
dengan gadis lain yang bukan engkau…???

sukakah engkau kiranya suamimu (kelak) saat ini tidak bisa tidur karena memikirkan gadis tersebut…?? menangis untuk gadis tersebut…?? dan berkata dengan hati hancur…”aku sangat mencintamu…aku sangat mencintaimu…???”
tidak patah hatikah engkau…???

sukakakah engkau bila suamimu (kelak ) berkata pada gadis lain..”tidak ada orang yang lebih aku cintai selain engkau…??”
menyebut gadis tersebut dalam doanya…
memohon pada Allah supaya gadis tersebut menjadi istrinya… dan ternyata engkaulah yang kelak akan jadi istrinya…dan bukan gadis tersebut…???

jika engkau tidak suka akan hal itu…
jika engkau merasa cemburu….

maka demikian halnya dengan suamimu (kelak)…

dan…Allah jauh lebih cemburu daripada suamimu….
Allah lebih cemburu…saudariku…
melihat engkau sendirian…namun pikirannmu enggan berpindah dari laki-laki yang telah mengusik hatimu tersebut….

saudariku….kalian percaya takdir bukan..?

saudariku….kalian percaya takdir bukan..?


apabila dua orang telah digariskan untuk dapat hidup bersama, maka sejauh apapun mereka, sebanyak apapun rintangan yang menghalangi…sebesar apapun beda diantara mereka…
sekuat apapun usaha dua orang tersebut untuk menghindarkannya…
meski mereka tidak pernah komunikasi sebelumnya…
meski mereka sama sekali tidak pernah membayangkan sebelumnya…

meski mereka tidak pernah saling bertegur sapa…

PASTI tetap saja mereka akan bersatu….
seakan ada magnet yang menarik mereka…
akan ada hal yang datang…untuk menyatukan mereka berdua….

akan ada suatu kejadian…yang membuat mereka saling mendekat dan akhirnya bersatu…


namun, apabila dua orang telah ditetapkan untuk tidak berjodoh…maka… sebesar apapun usaha mereka untuk saling mendekat, sekeras apapun upaya orang disekitar mereka untuk menyatukannya, sekuat apapun perasaan yang ada diantara mereka berdua, sebanyak apapun komunikasi diantara mereka sebelumnya…
sedekat apapun…
PASTI…akan ada hal yang membuat mereka akhirnya saling menjauh…
ada hal yang membuat mereka saling merasa tidak cocok…
ada hal yang membuat mereka saling menyadari bahwa memang bukan dia yang terbaik….

ada kejadian yang menghalangi mereka untuk bersatu…

bahkan ketika mereka mungkin telah menetapkan tanggal pernikahan…


namun…yang perlu dicatat disini adalah…

yakinlah…bahwa yang diberikan oleh Allah…
yakinlah…bahwa yang digariskan oleh Allah…
yakinlah…bahwa yang telah ditulis oleh Allah dalam KitabNya..
adalah…yang terbaik untuk kita….
adalah….yang paling sesuai untuk kita…

adalah…yang paling membuat kita merasa bahagia,,,,

karena Dialah…yang paling mengerti kita…lebih dari kita sendiri…
Dialah…yang paling menyayangi kita…
Dialah…yang paling mengetahui apa-apa yang terbaik untuk kita…


sementara kita hanya sedikit saja mengetahuinya dan itupun hanya berdasarkan pada persangkaan kita.
Dan, yang perlu kita catat juga adalah…

JIKA KITA TIDAK MENDAPATKAN SUATU HAL YANG KITA INGINKAN…ITU BUKAN BERARTI BAHWA KITA TIDAK PANTAS UNTUK MENDAPATKANNYA….NAMUN JUSTRU SEBALIKNYA, BAHWA…KITA PANTAS…KITA PANTAS MENDAPATKAN YANG LEBIH BAIK DARI HAL TERSEBUT…
KITA PANTAS MENDAPATKAN YANG LEBIH BAIK…SAUDARIKU….

LEBIH BAIK…. YA, LEBIH BAIK…, YAKINLAH….,


meskipun saat ini…mata manusia kita tidak memahaminya…
meskipun saat itu…perasaan kita memandangnya dengan sebelah mata…

meskipun saat itu…otak kita melihatnya sebagai sesuatu yang buruk….


Tidak…jangan terburu-buru menvonis bahwa engkau telah diberikan sesuatu yang buruk….bahwa engkau tidak pantas….
karena kelak, engkau akan menyadarinya…

engkau akan menyadarinya perlahan bahwa apa yang telah hilang darimu, bahwa apa yang tidak engkau dapatkan….bukanlah yang terbaik untukmu…bukanlah yang pantas untukmu…bukanlah sesuatu yang baik ,,,,untukmu….


karena itu saudariku…
jangan mubazirkan tenagamu, waktumu... perasaanmu... air matamu…
jangan kau umbar semua perasaan cintamu ketika engkau tengah menjalin proses taarufan…
jangan kau umbar semua kekuranganmu…jangan kau ceritakan semuanya…
jangan kau terlalu ngotot ingin dengannya…jika engkau mencintainya…
karena belum tentu dia adalah jodohmu…

pun jangan takut bila ternyata kalian tidak merasa cocok,
karena Allah telah menetapkan yang terbaik untuk kalian…maka…memohonlah pada-Nya, mintalah padanya diberikan petunjuk dan dijauhkan dari segala godaan yang ada…

karena…cinta sebelum pernikahan pada hakekatnya adalah sebuah cobaan yang berat…

kemudian saudariku….apakah kalian sering merasa takut karena hanya memiliki sedikit saja atau bahkan tidak memiliki teman laki-laki…???
Apakah kalian merasa khawatir…??? Apakah kalian sering merasa iri melihat gadis-gadis lain yang memiliki banyak lelaki yang mencintai, banyak yg melamar, banyak yang menginginkannya…??

Pernahkan terlintas rasa iri tersebut pada kalian…??? Atau sekedar ungkapan…
”hmm…enak ya kamu…punya banyak temen laki-laki….”
“hmm..kamu sih enak…banyak yang mau…tinggal milih…?”

Saudariku, ketahuilah….Kelak kita hanya akan memiliki satu orang suami…
Hanya satu saudariku, atau kadang lebih…jika cerai dan menikah lagi…namun saat yang bersamaan kita hanya akan punya satu suami bukan,,,,??? Jadi seberapa banyak pun laki-laki yang menyukai kita.. Seberapa banyak teman laki-laki kita..Seberapa banyak kenalan kita….Pada akhirnya kita hanya akan menikah dengan satu orang laki-laki…
Pada akhirnya kita hanya akan jadi milik satu orang laki-laki…
Dan…percayalah…semua itu tidak ada kaitannya dengan banyak sedikitnya kenalan, banyak sedikitnya teman laki-laki.
Sama sekali tidak…

Karena jika wanita yang terjaga maka Allahlah yang akan mengirimkan pendamping untuknya…karena wanita yang terjaga adalah wanita yang banyak didamba oleh seorang ikhwan sejati…


jadi…jagalah dirimu…hatimu…kehormatanmu…sebelum saatnya tiba…

perbanyak bekalmu…dan doamu…
yakinlah…bahwa Allah yang akan memilihkan yang terbaik untukmu…

aamiin…


*Ya Allah…karuniakanlah kami seorang suami yang sholeh…yang menjaga dirinya…yang menjaga hatinya hanya untuk yang halal baginya…yang senantiasa memperbaiki dirinya…yang senantiasa berusaha mengikuti sunnah Rasulullah…yang baik akhlaknya…yang menerima kami apa adanya…yang membimbing kami dengan lemah lembut…
yang akan membawa kami menuju Jannah-Mu Ya Rabb…kabulkan ya Allah…" aamiin…

dan segerakanlah…karena hati kami teramat lemah…dan cinta sebelum menikah adalah sebuah cobaan yang berat…sangat berat ya Allah….,

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Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Free Yourself from People Pleasing

 

Free Yourself from People Pleasing
by Jane Powell
 
“Give yourself permission to say, ‘No.’”
 
As young girls, many of us were taught to always try to please people. We were told it was important to be seen as nice and non-confrontational. As a result, we went out of our way to do things that people wanted. We became people pleasers, afraid to rock the boat.
 
Is this still your mantra?
 
Recognize and appreciate that you have a right to do what’s right for you. There is no need to always feel obligated to please others, at your expense.
 
If a friend asks you do something when you have other priorities, say “No.” If the school asks you to volunteer when you’d rather enjoy lunch with friends, say “No.”
 
Don’t feel obligated to offer an excuse. Give yourself permission to say, “No!” Because a balanced life includes pleasing yourself, as well as others.

 

To laugh often and much;
to win the respect of intelligent
 people and the affection of children,
to leave the world a better place,
to know even one life has
breathed easier because you have lived,
this is to have succeeded.
 
Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

As soon as it begins, take control of your day. Decide in detail what you intend to do and commit to making it happen.
If you sit around and wait for events and circumstances to pull you along, you'll end up getting nothing accomplished. If you have no firm and resolute plans, you'll waste all your time on meaningless distractions and interruptions.
 
Certainly unexpected situations will come up that require your response. Yet you can choose to respond from a position of power and control, rather than from a position of weakness and ineffectiveness.
 
Decide what you will do with this day, and get busy doing it. Make a difference, establish a positive momentum, and get your goals accomplished.
 
Time is here, right now, for you to use. Transform the passing time into lasting value by making effective use of it.
 
This day is filled with great possibilities. Choose certain, specific ones, and make the effort that will make them happen.
 
Ralph Marston
 
 
 

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Keindahan Jilbab

 

Jangan pernah malu untuk perubahan yang baik dan mulailah dari sekarang, karena kita takan pernah tau apa yang akan terjadi di hari esok, untuk para wanita muslim yang mungkin belum terketuk pintu hatinya silahkan simak cerita ini, sehingga menjadi wanita muslimah sejati. amin..
Seorang anak memperhatikan tingkah ibunya yang menurutnya aneh. Ia heran kenapa kalau akan keluar rumah, ibunya selalu menutup rapat seluruh tubuhnya kecuali wajah dan telapak tangan. Bahkan di dalam rumah pun, jika tamu datang, ibunya segera melakukan hal yang sama: berhijab.“Ibu aneh!” ucapnya sambil mencari-cari reaksi dari sang ibu. Ibu anak itu pun menoleh ke arah buah hatinya. Ia memeriksa dirinya untuk menemukan sesuatu yang agak lain. Tapi, tidak ia temukan.“Aneh? Apanya yang aneh, sayang?” sambut sang ibu ketika yakin kalau tak ada satu pun dari dirinya yang lain dari yang lain.

“Kenapa ibu menutup rambut, tubuh, lengan, dan kaki kalau mau keluar? Padahal, ibu tidak cacat. Rambut ibu bagus, lengan dan kaki ibu pun tidak ada yang perlu disembunyikan!” ungkap sang anak begitu gamblang. Mungkin, inilah kesempatannya untuk bisa mengeluarkan kebingungannya selama ini.

Sang ibu pun senyum. Ia mendekati anaknya perlahan. Sambil mengulum senyum itu, sang ibu mencari-cari jawaban yang pas buat si anak.
“Anakku, ibu tidak sedang menutupi kecantikan, apalagi keburukan. Justru, ibu mengenakan kecantikan baru untuk memperindah kecantikan fisik ibu yang tidak seberapa. Inilah busana kecantikan dari Yang Maha Sayang!” ucap sang ibu sambil menatap buah hati di depannya yang masih tampak bingung.

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Inti dari dinamika hidup anak-anak manusia adalah memproduksi sesuatu yang indah. Bagus. Paling baik. Keindahan akan semakin indah ketika karya anak manusia telah melalui berbagai halangan, ujian, cobaan; menggosok batu cincin keindahan amal menuju peringkat keindahan yang lebih tinggi.

Namun, itu saja belum cukup. Karena keindahan yang bisa dihasilkan manusia tidak seperti kemolekan alam melalui birunya laut, keserasian cakrawala, dan liukan indah sebuah pegunungan.

Keindahan amal manusia tidak berhenti pada sesuatu yang tampak. Justru, keindahan akan kian bernilai ketika ia tidak lagi mudah terlihat, tidak gampang terjamah. Itulah busana kecantikan amal dari Yang Maha Sayang, dan hanya untuk Yang Paling Penyayang. (erm)


Aku Hanya Wanita Biasa

 

Kepadamu yang akan menjadi pendampingku kelak..
Terimakasih karena telah memilihku di antara ribuan bidadari di luar sana yang siap untuk kau pilih.. Padahal kau begitu tahu, aku hanya wanita biasa, yang sangat jauh dari sempurna.
Karenanya ku ingin kau tahu, aku bukan wanita yang sempurna, aku begitu banyak kekurangan. Maka ketahuilah..

Kepadamu yang akan memilihku kelak..

Aku tak sebijak bunda khadijah, karenanya ku ingin kau tahu, aku bisa saja berbuat salah dan begitu menyebalkan. Maka ku mohon padamu, bijaklah dalam menghadapiku, jangan marah padaku, nasihati aku dengan hikmah, karena bagiku kaulah pemimpinku, tak akan berani ku membangkang padamu..

Duhai kau yang telah memilihku kelak.. Ingatlah, tak selamanya aku dapat tampak cantik di matamu, ada kalanya aku akan begitu kusam dan jelek. Mungkin karena aku begitu sibuk berjibaku di dapur, menyiapkan makan untuk kau dan malaikat-malaikat kita nanti –insya’Allah-. Maka aku akan tampak kotor dan berbau asap. Atau karena seharian ku harus membenahi istana kecil kita, agar kau dan malaikat kita dapat tinggal dengan nyaman dan sehat. Maka mungkin aku tak sempat berdandan untuk menyambutmu sepulang bekerja.. Ataukah kau akan menemukanku terkantuk kantuk saat mendengar keluhan dan ceritamu, bukan karena aku tak suka menjadi tempatmu menumpahkan segala rasamu, tapi karena semalam saat kau tertidur dengan nyenyak, aku tak sedetikpun tertidur karena harus menjaga malaikat kecil kita yang sedang rewel, dan ku tau kau letih mengais rezeki untuk kami maka tak ingin ku mengusik sedikit pun lelapmu.. Jadi jika esok pagi kau mendapatiku begitu letih dan ada lingkaran hitam di mataku, maka tetaplah tersenyum padaku, karena kau adalah kekuatanku..

Padamu yang menjadi nahkoda dalam hidupku kelak..

Ketahuilah, aku tak sesabar Fatimah, ada kalanya kau akan menemukanku begitu marah, menangis dan tak terkontrol, bukan karena ku membangkang padamu, tapi aku hanya wanita biasa, aku juga butuh tempat untuk menumpahkan beban di hatiku, tempat untuk melepaskan penatku, dan mungkin saat itu aku tak menemukanmu, atau kau begitu sibuk dengan pekerjaanmu, maka bersabarlah, yang ku butuhkan hanya pelukan dan belaianmu.. Karena bagiku kau adalah tetesan embun yang mampu memadamkan segala resahku..

Ataukah ada kalanya tanganku akan mencubit dan memukul pelan si kecil karena lelah dan penatku di tambh rengekannya yang tak habis-habisnya. Sungguh bukan karena ku ingin menyakitinya, tapi kadang aku kehabisan cara untuk menenangkan hatinya. Maka jangan membentakku karena telah menyakiti buah hati kita, tapi cukup kau usap kepalaku, dan bisikkan kata sayang di telingaku, karena dengan itu ku tau kau selalu menghargai semua yang ku lakukan untuk kalian, dan kau akan menemukanku menangis menyesali perlakuanku pada malaikat kita, dan aku akan merasakan ribuan kali rasa sakit dari cubitan yang ku berikan padanya, dan aku akan berjanji tak akan mengulanginya lagi..

Padamu yang menjadi imam dalam hidupku kelak..

Ketahuilah, aku tak secerdas aisyah.. Maka jangan pernah bosan mengajariku, membimbingku ke arah-Nya, walau kadang aku begitu bebal dan bodoh, tapi jangan pernah letih mengajariku.. Jangan segan membangunkanku di sepertiga malam untuk bersamamu bermunajat pada Kekasih yang Maha Kasih.. Jangan letih mengingatkanku untuk terus bersamamu mendulang pahala dalam amalan-amalan sunnah.. Bimbing tanganku ke JannahNya, agar kau dan aku tetap bersatu di dalamnya.

Padamu yang menjadi kekasih hati dan teman dalam hidupku..

Seiring berjalannya waktu, kau akan menemukan rambutku yang dulu hitam legam dan indah, akan menipis dan memutih. Kulitku yang bersih akan mulai keriput. Tanganku yang halus akan menjadi kasar.. Dan kau tak akan menemukanku sebagai wanita cantik, yang kau khitbah puluhan tahun yang lalu.. Bukan wanita muda yang selalu menyenangkan matamu.. Maka jangan pernah berpaling dariku.. Karena satu yang tak pernah berubah, bahkan sejak dulu akan terus bertambah dan kian membuncah, yaitu rasa cintaku padamu..

Ketahuilah.. Tiap harinya, tiap jam, menit dan detiknya, telah aku lewati dengan selalu jatuh cinta padamu..
Maka, cintailah aku, dengan apa adanya aku.. Jangan berharap aku menjadi wanita sempurna.. Maafkan aku karena aku bukan putri.. Aku hanya wanita biasa..

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Monday, October 25, 2010

Who Will Give You the BEST Advice



Who Will Give You the BEST Advice
by Jane Powell
“Listen to your inner wisdom.”
Advice from others may share the benefit of experience. But, not trusting your own inner wisdom can hold you back. Even though the intentions of others are good, sometimes their views and words are negative. They may even encourage you to believe that they know your needs better than you.
When you hear advice that makes you doubt your dreams and abilities, stop! Believe in yourself first, and see all other viewpoints from that perspective. Your situation can always change for the better and what you want, though ambitious, is possible. Wisdom offered by others may be absolutely right -but it doesn’t mean it’s right for you.
You know your strengths and capabilities. You know your ability to hold on to an idea and make it work despite the odds. In the end believe in your own wisdom, first, and thank others for theirs.

DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT?
I heard a funny story about a cowboy who ambled into the local
blacksmith shop and picked up a horseshoe, not realizing it had just
come from the forge. He immediately dropped the hot shoe, shoved his
seared hand into his pocket and tried to act nonchalant.
The blacksmith half smiled and asked, "Kinda hot, wasn't it?"
"Nope," replied the cowboy, "just don't take me long to look at a
horseshoe, that's all."
I chuckle because I don't enjoy admitting mistakes, either. Nope, I'm
fine.I meant to do that.
Furthermore, when I think I'm right, I usually want people to know
it. And when I'm IN THE RIGHT, it's hard to hold me back. "Hey, I'm
the injured party here. I didn't do anything wrong. I can prove it!"
I don't suffer righteous indignation quietly.
I learned of a minister who left his pulpit to go to medical school
and become a doctor. An old friend saw him several years later and
expressed surprise at his career change, but said he assumed it had
been because he could care for people in a more physical way now
that he was practicing medicine.
"Not at all," the doctor responded honestly, "the reasons were
purely economic. I discovered that people will pay more money to
care for their bodies than for their souls."
Several years lapsed before the friend saw him again and discovered
that he had left medicine for law. "What was your reason this time?"
the friend asked.
"Simple economics again," replied the ex-minister, ex-doctor
attorney. "I learned that people will pay more to prove they are
right than to care for either body or soul."
I suppose I'm not the only person who enjoys being right. Is that
part of our human nature? In conflict, it seems most folks want to
come out on top. When they are wronged, they want justice. If no
justice is forthcoming, they lament about the unfairness of it all
and indignantly brood in self pity. Many people will go to great
lengths to prove they are right - and at tremendous cost, not only
financially, but in other ways.
Do you know how difficult it is to insist on being right? And how
high the cost?
Being the injured party is costly to physical and emotional health.
Some people stew about the injustice of it all while their stomachs
are eaten away by ulcers. While they wait for an apology or a court
case to vindicate them, they grow resentful and bitter. They obsess
on the cause of their pain and allow it to rob them of one of their
most valuable assets - their happiness. In the end, many of them
discover they paid far too high a price to be right.
An important question for me is this: Do I want to be right, or do I
want to be well? And a related question is this: Do I want to be
right, or do I want to be happy? Because usually I have to choose.
But it's a choice I really ought to make.
Steve Goodier
 
Always remember, when you interact with someone else, that someone is a person. The recipient of your email, or the voice on the phone, or the individual waiting behind you in line, is a person
Each person you encounter has hopes, dreams, joys, pains, problems, abilities, interests, things to do and opinions. Though you may or may not agree with or like that person, it serves you well to be respectful and understanding.
The people in your world add great richness to your life. Take the time and care to treat them not as numbers, not as transactions, not as one-dimensional objects, but as real, living people.
Treasure your interactions, and give your full attention to them. Nurture your relationships, and continually build them with love.
Take notice of, acknowledge, appreciate and accommodate not only the people you know, but also those people you don't know who cross your path. Sincerely value those around you, and you'll add great value to your life.
Ralph Marston
 

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Friday, October 22, 2010

How Winners Think


How Winners Think
 by Jane Powell
 
“When you try something new, you have little to lose and much to gain.”
Of course success is never guaranteed, but that does not mean you should not try. Take comfort in knowing that even if you fail you are still gaining life experiences and making deposits into your bank of wisdom.  You really have lost nothing in your pursuit. You have come out smarter, wiser and more prepared for your next challenge.
Arise to your next challenge. If you find yourself thinking, “What if I fail?” try turning that question around. Instead, ask yourself, “What if I succeed?” That’s how winners think!

 

LETTING YOURSELF GROW

Did you know that the gestation period for an elephant is 22 months?
And then, she will give birth to a bundle of joy that weighs 150-250
Pounds. If you're pregnant and sick of feeling like an elephant, at
You aren't one.

Growth takes time. That is true of humans as well as elephants. I
Attended a parent-teacher conference for my second-grade son. We sat
In the children's chairs. They were about two feet tall and certainly
Not made for adults. Those chairs were designed for little people.
Growth is a slow process, but as we grow up, we outgrow the little
Chairs.

We grow physically and we grow in other ways, too. We grow in our
Roles and relationships. I occasionally asked my adolescent kids, "How
Do you think you're doing raising your parents?" I understood I would
Become a better parent as I grew into that role.

Sometimes growth in parenting involves the understanding that we don't
Know as much as we thought we did. Before my wife and I had children
We taught parenting classes. We knew all of the fundamentals of
Raising happy and well-behaved children. Now, after raising my own
Children, I am sometimes asked about parenting issues. This often
Occurs when I am teaching a class on a different topic. My response
These days is to turn to the group and ask, "Does anyone here have any
Suggestions?"

As I've grown older, I have come to see more clearly just how much
More I need to grow. I realize that simple answers do not fit every
Situation ...or every child. I am throwing out the easy answers and
Learning to assess every parenting issue individually. I try to learn
From my failures, to trust my instincts and to respond more often from
My best self.

I have come a long way, but have a long way yet to grow. And that is
True of every area of my life.

If you're not yet the person you want to be, can you be patient as you
Grow? It takes the elephant 22 months to give birth. Even the
Mightiest tree begins as a frail seed.

Be patient. You can go through life or you can grow through life.

Steve Goodier

 

By its very nature, life is dynamic. That makes it impossible to truly stand still.
If you're not moving forward, you're falling behind. So every day, in some way or another, take action to move your life forward.
Just a small improvement, just a subtle positive step, is infinitely preferable to doing nothing. Always, there is some little something you can do to better your life and your world.
What can you do right now to solve a problem that's been frustrating you? What step can you take in the next few minutes that will bring you closer to the accomplishment of an important goal?
There is something you can do, and those small efforts quickly add up as time goes on. So instead of complaining that you can't get it all accomplished at once, do a little bit, and then do it again.
Always, your life is filled with energy, and is moving in one direction or another. Harness that energy, align it with your highest purpose, and proceed constantly in the direction of your dreams.
Ralph Marston

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