“Hate is an invisible chain.”
When you don’t let go of hate, you let the thing or person you hate
maintain control over you. You allow the hatred to keep the channels of
negative energy open, sucking out positive emotions and holding you back
from true happiness.
Cut off the hate and move on! When you cleanse your mind and soul of
grudges and negative thoughts, you make new room for positive emotions and
joy. Take a moment today to consciously let go of all hatred. Savor the
new energy that you’ll feel bursting through to take its place!
©Jane Powell
THE FINER POINTS OF POSITIVE MOTIVATION
One wife waited patiently, then impatiently, for her husband to repair the lawn mower as he had promised. One day, not wanting to confront him in anger, she tried another tack. That was the day he came home and found her seated on the ground snipping grass with sewing scissors, one blade at a time. He watched in absolute amazement. Then he went into the house and returned with a toothbrush. "Honey," he said, "when you finish cutting the grass would you mind sweeping the sidewalks?"
They both laughed. And, more importantly, he turned his attention to the mower.
We've all been there. We want to encourage a child to do her homework, or a spouse to complete a project, or a colleague to follow through. How can we encourage without criticizing, nagging, berating or pushing?
Maybe because I'm the one that occasionally has to be nudged, I've learned a few important things about the finer points of positive motivation.
First, whenever possible, try to keep it light-hearted. The careful use of humor can work in any relationship to make the point in a way it will be heard. Sometimes we are so frustrated we know that however we say it, it will be bound to come out wrong. These are especially the times when humor may be needed.
Second, without exception, be polite and respectful. Sometimes it's more about how we say it than what we say. Too much of the world is run on the theory that you don't need road manners if you drive a five-ton truck. No one wants to be forced, pushed, run over, cajoled or manipulated. They want to be respected.
Finally, as often as you can, show appreciation. Novelist Arnold Bennett had a publisher who boasted about the consistently exceptional work of his assistant. One day while visiting the publisher's office, Bennett struck up a conversation with the valued employee. He told her what her boss said about her work. "What's your secret?" he asked.
"It's not my secret," said the assistant, "it's his." She went on to tell him that her boss always acknowledges and appreciates everything she does, regardless how insignificant. That is why she finds it so easy to take pride in her work. The appreciation of her employer nudges her toward constant improvement.
These are a few of the finer points of positive motivation. And even if motivating is not your purpose, respect and appreciation, topped off with a little humor is bound to improve any relationship.
Steve Goodier
One wife waited patiently, then impatiently, for her husband to repair the lawn mower as he had promised. One day, not wanting to confront him in anger, she tried another tack. That was the day he came home and found her seated on the ground snipping grass with sewing scissors, one blade at a time. He watched in absolute amazement. Then he went into the house and returned with a toothbrush. "Honey," he said, "when you finish cutting the grass would you mind sweeping the sidewalks?"
They both laughed. And, more importantly, he turned his attention to the mower.
We've all been there. We want to encourage a child to do her homework, or a spouse to complete a project, or a colleague to follow through. How can we encourage without criticizing, nagging, berating or pushing?
Maybe because I'm the one that occasionally has to be nudged, I've learned a few important things about the finer points of positive motivation.
First, whenever possible, try to keep it light-hearted. The careful use of humor can work in any relationship to make the point in a way it will be heard. Sometimes we are so frustrated we know that however we say it, it will be bound to come out wrong. These are especially the times when humor may be needed.
Second, without exception, be polite and respectful. Sometimes it's more about how we say it than what we say. Too much of the world is run on the theory that you don't need road manners if you drive a five-ton truck. No one wants to be forced, pushed, run over, cajoled or manipulated. They want to be respected.
Finally, as often as you can, show appreciation. Novelist Arnold Bennett had a publisher who boasted about the consistently exceptional work of his assistant. One day while visiting the publisher's office, Bennett struck up a conversation with the valued employee. He told her what her boss said about her work. "What's your secret?" he asked.
"It's not my secret," said the assistant, "it's his." She went on to tell him that her boss always acknowledges and appreciates everything she does, regardless how insignificant. That is why she finds it so easy to take pride in her work. The appreciation of her employer nudges her toward constant improvement.
These are a few of the finer points of positive motivation. And even if motivating is not your purpose, respect and appreciation, topped off with a little humor is bound to improve any relationship.
Steve Goodier
Now and later
You don’t have to sacrifice present joy and richness for future value,
and you don’t have to compromise your future to enjoy right now. You can
choose to live richly and joyfully in the present while also being
positively responsible for your future.
Sure there are momentary pleasures that will have a negative impact on
your future. Yet you can fully enjoy this moment without resorting to
those empty, fleeting pleasures.
Yes, there are responsibilities you must tend to right now in order to
create a more positive future. But there’s no need to feel burdened or
oppressed by them.
In fact, one of the best ways to enjoy the present moment is by being
productive and creative and focused on a meaningful positive purpose.
Instead of filling your moments with shallow pleasures that will soon be
gone, you can fill your life with deep, profound joy that will continue to
grow stronger.
Being disciplined and responsible toward your own future is not really
a sacrifice at all. When you continue to remind yourself of the value of
what you’re doing, it is a constant source of satisfaction and abiding
richness.
Make the choices that will enrich your future while also drinking in
every bit of the richness of right now. Live with authentic positive
presence and purpose, and you can have it all.
Ralph Marston
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