Price You Pay for Holding on to Hate

 

Price You Pay for Holding on to Hate

 

by Jane Powell 
 
“Hate is an invisible chain.”
 
When you don’t let go of hate, you let the thing or person you hate maintain control over you. You allow the hatred to keep the channels of negative energy open, sucking out positive emotions and holding you back from true happiness.
 
Cut off the hate and move on! When you cleanse your mind and soul of grudges and negative thoughts, you make new room for positive emotions and joy. Take a moment today to consciously let go of all hatred. Savor the new energy that you’ll feel bursting through to take its place!

 

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never realize your potential, strength, will power or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test limits of your soul.

Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create whom you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but also because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count. Appreciate everything that you possibly can, for you may never experience it again.

Talk to people whom you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold you head up because you have every right to.

Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

The Piano Lady

 

Make it be
 
Don’t allow the troubles to get the best of you. Instead, allow those troubles to make the best of you.
 
Don’t tire yourself out fighting against the challenges. Instead, find new energy by embracing those challenges and working through them to create real value.
 
Always remind yourself that discouragement is nothing more than a response you’ve chosen. When you find that you’ve chosen to let it be, you can just as surely choose to let it go.
 
In the place of discouragement, you can put determination. It is your life’s energy, and you can point it in whatever direction you choose.
 
Your most powerful response is not based only on what has already happened. Your most powerful response also takes into account what you wish to make happen next.
 
Look forward, and envision in great detail the future you desire. Then gather all your energy, and step forward to make it be.
 
  Ralph Marston

 

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There’s a time and a place to express your true feelings

 

“There’s a time and a place to express your true feelings.”

A smile that is insincere is a turn off. Saying, “Have a nice day,” without meaning, does not go unnoticed. Apologies with little depth won’t be accepted by those you have hurt or deceived.

We all have feelings, as well as the need to express them.

An awareness of how your feelings affect what you say is important. It’s okay to be frustrated or mad. And, it’s perfectly normal and acceptable to express emotions. Just remember to be aware of how your frank expressions or true feelings may make someone else feel.

Such consideration for others encourages consideration for you.

©Jane Powell

 

You were born with a capacity for great courage, for
trust in your surroundings and for faith in yourself.
But something happened along the way that changed
this positive capacity.
If you were criticized at an early age and denied
encouragement by those you trusted you could
learn to believe that something was wrong with
you. Over time, such beliefs may appear as the
absolute truth-a definition of your identity.
Guess what? It's simply not true! You are perfect
and it's time to act that way. As hard as it may be
to regain your self-esteem, you can forget and forgive
what happened when you were young. You can
regain the courage, trust, and faith that are your
birthright, by recognizing that, although youthful
disillusionment can be changed, it can be overcome.

 

Stop stopping

Stop stopping yourself. Stop holding yourself back.

Stop giving power to your limitations. Instead, give commitment, action and persistence to your best possibilities.

Fear and anxiety are immensely compelling, yet you are even stronger. The inertia of complacency is powerful, and yet you can overcome it.

Whatever may have been holding you back has done so with your cooperation. Choose now to no longer cooperate.

You have made the excuses and rationalizations, and you can now let them go. You have focused on the fear, and you can now move beyond it.

The challenges facing you are very real, but that doesn’t mean you must add to them. Instead, use the positive power of your life to move successfully through them.

Ralph Marston

 

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Your life will always be, to a large extent, what you make it.

 

“Your life will always be, to a large extent, what you make it.”

Your life is yours. You own it, and what you make of it is purely up to you. Others may support you in your aspirations, but, in the end, it’s your creation. You are your one and only boss, and with that awareness comes a special responsibility.

Once you accept this responsibility and stop waiting around for others to make you happy, you will become unstoppable. There will be no denying you. Your life will change, all because of you.

So, turn on the green light and go!

©Jane Powell 

 

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you 

Accept yourself! Insecurity is what’s ugly, not you. Be you, just the way you are, in the beautiful way only you know how. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will either. And when you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you, but you won’t care about it one bit.

 

Power in every choice

Whatever fills your awareness most intensely is what you will bring to life. Instead of filling your awareness with excuses, fill it with passion.

With your moments, your skills, your words and your actions you will change your world today. Choose to let that change be driven by what you love rather than by what you fear.

Focus on the good things, on the possibilities, and on those dreams and values that are your most authentic. Make yourself the living embodiment of the best you can imagine.

Your life is constantly shaped by the way you live it, the way you think of it and the way you feel it. Even the smallest things have an influence, and all those things combine together to build the life you experience.

Every day is an opportunity to more fully express the unique beauty of who you are. Every situation is one in which you can choose to give rich substance and meaning to your world.

Feel the power that exists in every choice, and in every moment. Use that power wisely and purposefully, and live life at its best.

Ralph Marston

 

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There are many ways to know yourself

 

“There are many ways to know yourself.”

You are a multifaceted person. Discovering yourself can be the adventure of a lifetime. Learning how comfortable or uncomfortable you are in certain situations, if you’re outgoing or quiet, what makes you happy or sad, and knowing what you’re good at and what you’re not, is part of nurturing a balanced life. Do you know all those things about yourself? Or, are you too busy, too stressed, or too focused on someone else to care?

Knowing as much as you can about yourself makes decision-making easier. When you know “you,” it’s easier to ensure that your choices are the right ones. This knowledge is your key to harmony and balance. So, take the time to know yourself. It’s the only way to make certain that you live a happy, fulfilling life.

©Jane Powell

 

“Reality is something to rise above.”

Great things are accomplished when you believe that what’s inside of you is superior to your circumstances. Believing you’re more important than any of your problems, that you’re bigger than anything that can happen to you, takes courage.

You may have to dig deep for this courage, but it is there. Rise above fear and doubt. Remind yourself that you are in control, that the time to live is now.

 

Keep building

Small efforts that are repeated are far more powerful than big efforts that are made just once and then abandoned. Instead of hoping for a chance to make a big impact, take advantage of each opportunity you have to make a small impact.

Time works in your favor when you work in your favor with every little bit of time you get. You can achieve great things with modest efforts by persistently repeating those efforts.

Every moment is an opportunity to add a little bit to life’s richness. Those little bits add up.

Each revolution of your car’s engine moves the vehicle forward only a short distance. Yet with enough successive turns of the engine and tires, you can traverse an entire continent.

Just because the effort is small, doesn’t mean it is insignificant. Just because you can’t do it all at once, doesn’t mean it is out of your reach.

Success and fulfillment are built on a day-by-day basis. Keep going, keep building, and enjoy the ride.

 Ralph Marston

 

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You’re not alone in the journey of life

 

“You’re not alone in the journey of life.”

There’s not a person in the world that hasn’t had to struggle or overcome difficulties. We all face challenges and adversity. When the struggle seems too long or too hard, remember, you’re not alone.

At this very moment, you may face money difficulties, health problems, career challenges, or conflicts with children, partners or family. It’s all part of life! And, many other women face the same issues every day. When we recognize that obstacles are part of our journey, when we recall that those we admire also carry similar burdens, it is easier to keep on going.

Tap into the strength that comes from knowing others experience what you experience. Stay strong by recognizing that you are one of millions who do their best to handle challenges, every day.

Don’t let difficulties stop you and never give up. Instead, think of them as milestones that, once passed, will bring you closer to your goals.

Remember, everyone struggles as they walks along the road of life. But, so many heroic women are on this same journey that no one walks alone.

©Jane Powell

 

promises destroy relationships
You make commitments to others and yourself all the time. The question is: Do you keep them? If you said you’re going to do something, do it! When you fail to keep a promise, it tells others that you don’t value their time or relationship. Don’t over-promise; under-promise and over-deliver on everything you do. And a few words to the wise: Never make a big decision when you’re angry, and never make a big promise when you’re overjoyed. 

 

Get up and do

There are a thousand ways you can talk yourself out of taking action. Yet there is just one way to truly move forward, and that is to go ahead and take action.

It’s great to be smart, informed, and thoughtful. It’s not that great to think things through so much and to second-guess yourself so much that you never get anything done.

You can find plenty of ways to justify your procrastination. Yet even if it’s perfectly reasonable and understandable, it’s still procrastination.

The secret to moving forward is not found in some clever technique. The secret to moving forward is to get up and go, get up and do, get up and create value.

Be smart, but don’t be so focused on being smart that you fail to put your wisdom and intelligence to good, productive use. Be smart, and then act smart, and follow through on your brilliant thinking.

Instead of just thinking about it and eventually letting the thought die, get up and do it. Put your thoughts into action and transform them into solid, lasting value.

 Ralph Marston

 

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Grow-up and Laugh at Yourself

 

A Crucial Lesson Often Forgotten

by Jane Powell 

“Grow-up and laugh at yourself!”

When you were young, the worst thing that could happen was the ridicule of others. Looking back, you can recall the embarrassment and humiliation of being laughed at. And, God forbid that you made fun of yourself. It didn’t happen.

But, as we grow older, we gradually learn that laughing at ourselves is okay. This is an important lesson. A lesson that, all too often, we forget to live.

Next time something doesn’t go your way or you do something you regret, no matter how upset you feel, say to yourself, “In time, I will laugh at this.”

You don’t always have to wait for time to pass. Decide to laugh about it right then and there. Laughing puts things in perspective and chases embarrassment away. So, laugh at yourself, today!

 

Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you.

You are so much more powerful than you give yourself credit for.
Even if it occurs subconsciously, you are fashioning your life to support
the image of who you think you are. If you see yourself as a helpless victim,
you will attract events and scenarios to support the story of "Poor me, why
does this always happen in my life?"
It happens because you create it. The universe is simply doing its job of
giving you what you say you want. Maybe on the unconscious level, you
enjoy the negative attention that being a victim brings, and if you convince
the universe that you are a victim, the universe will deliver. Isn't that a good
enough reason to change your negative, self-defeating thoughts into those that
exude power and possibility? Let that victim role go, and start thinking of
yourself as a magnificent, powerful, and courageous being. Then sit back and
enjoy the gifts that shower on you. These new, fresh experiences
will reflect your healthy, empowered vision of yourself.

Thanks Marcella

 

Stay determined

Even while life throws you frustration and disappointment, you can quietly and steadily achieve. Even when you cannot make a lot of progress, you can make a little progress.

That small progress adds up, day after day. Soon it becomes much more valuable than anything you could accomplish in a single effort.

Sure, some things can be accomplished in a burst of determined effort. However, the most valuable achievements take time, with one small, yet effective action after another.

Determination is a powerful force that can compel you in an intimately meaningful way to take action. And determination becomes much more powerful when you’re able to spread it over long periods of time.

The longer you can maintain your determination, the higher the level of achievement you’ll be able to reach. It’s great to be determined, and even more powerful when you can stay determined.

Keep your determination alive and growing by reminding yourself again and again of why it’s important to you. Keep your actions coming by continuing to fuel them with the power of positive determination.

Ralph Marston

 

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Rejuvenation at its best!

 

If your life is going in a hundred different directions and moving a million miles an hour, walking may make the burden easier to handle.

Walking allows you to focus on being fully present. It provides you with an opportunity to mull over something that may be on your mind. It gives you a chance to take in the beauty and bounty that surrounds you. Walking can be a time for self-discovery, a time to reconnect with wholeness and harmony.

Take 15-minutes today, and just walk. Let your mind rest. Savor the physical and emotional benefits you gain from moving your body.

This is rejuvenation at its best!

©Jane Powell

BELIEVE
WHILE OTHERS ARE DOUBTING

PLAN
WHILE OTHERS ARE PLAYING

STUDY

WHILE OTHERS ARE SLEEPING

DECIDE

WHILE OTHERS ARE DELAYING

PREPARE

WHILE OTHERS ARE DAY DREAMING

BEGIN

WHILE OTHERS ARE PROCRASTINATING

WORK

WHILE OTHERS ARE WAITING

SAVE

WHILE OTHERS ARE WASTING

LISTEN

WHILE OTHERS ARE TALKING

SMILE

WHILE OTHERS ARE POUTING

COMMEND

WHILE OTHERS ARE CRITICIZING

PERSIST

WHILE OTHERS ARE QUITTING.

By William Arthur Ward

 

Energy of your passion

Anger gives you energy, but it’s not positive energy and not very effective either. When you act only out of anger, frustration, fear or resentment, though your actions may be intense they won’t move you forward by much.

It is with calm, thoughtful action, driven by positive purpose, that you make real progress. Instead of flailing around with raw passion, choose to harness that energy and apply it in peaceful, intelligent ways.

You can make a big scene or you can make a big, positive difference. But usually you can’t do both.

If you care enough to get angry, then you can care enough to point the energy of your anger in a positive direction. When you care enough to get frustrated, then you can care enough to get beyond the frustration and into a more effective state.

Feel the energy of your passion, and use that powerful energy. But don’t allow it to push you toward bad decisions or destructive actions.

Give some time and thought to the way you express the passionate feelings that come from your purpose. And express them in the most positive, effective ways.

Ralph Marston

 

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Age is something that doesn't matter - unless you're a bottle of wine

 

"Age is something that doesn't matter - unless you're a bottle of wine."

You are only as old as you think you are. If you embrace new opportunities, seek new learning and stay motivated and lively at heart, you can still do anything. In fact, given the wisdom and experience you've amassed over the years, you can probably do more today than you've ever been able to do before!

Keep your body lively through healthy diet and exercise. Nurture and exercise your mind with new experiences, new information, new friends, interests and challenges. Stay in touch with the world and no matter what your age, the world will stay in touch with you!

©Jane Powell

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t;
If you want to win but think you can’t,
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will;
It’s all in a state of mind.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger and faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins
It the man who thinks he can.  

 

Positive, purposeful path

There’s plenty of negativity that comes into your life. And you can let it go just as quickly as it comes.

To empower yourself, you don’t have to grab hold of anything new. Let go of all the negative stuff, and you’ll find that the power has been there all along.

You can’t avoid all the negative people, situations, words and events. You can, however, choose precisely what to do with each of them within yourself.

The most effective thing to do is to focus your awareness, your energy and your efforts elsewhere. Allow your beautiful, unique purpose to push you forward.

The negativity exists, and you cannot help but notice it. But you don’t have to let it be yours.

As soon as you encounter negativity, remind yourself to let it go. Rise above it, and move right ahead on your positive, purposeful path.

Ralph Marston

 

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The Present is Where It’s At

 

"The Present is Where It's At"

How much of your life do you spend living in the present?

Research shows that it’s very little. We spend a lot of time ruminating about the past, or speculating about the future. To make things worse, much of this “non-present” thinking is negative. We think about the things we might have done, or we think about future dramas that may, in reality, never occur. Or we might just simply wish it was Friday, and effectively wish a significant portion of our lives away.

The secret to real peace and happiness is to live in the present – to focus on the “Now.”

If you catch yourself living in another time zone remember, the present is where fulfillment is.

©Jane Powell 

 

As you travel through life there are always those times

When decisions just have to be made,

When the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce,

And the rain seems to soak your parade. 

There are some situations where all you can do

Is simply let go and move on,

Gather your courage and choose a direction

That carries you toward a new dawn.

So pack up your troubles and take a step forward

The process of change can be tough,

But think about all the excitement ahead

There might be adventures you never imagined

Just waiting around the next bend,

And wishes and dreams just about to come true

In ways you can’t yet comprehend!

Perhaps you’ll find friendships that spring from new things

As you challenge your status quo,

And learn there are so many options in life,

Perhaps you’ll go places you never expected

And see things that you’ve never seen,

Or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds

And wonderful spots in between!

Perhaps you’ll find warmth and affection and caring

And somebody special who’s there

To help you stay cantered and listen with interest

To stories and feelings you share.

Perhaps you’ll find comfort in knowing your friends

Are supportive of all that you do,

And believe that whatever decisions you make,

They’ll be the right choices for you.

So keep putting one foot in front of the other,

And taking your life day by day…

There’s a brighter tomorrow that’s just down the road - 

Don’t look back! You’re not going that way! 

 

  

Achievement is essential 

Go beyond merely being curious about how it would be to live your dream. Commit to it, and experience the satisfaction of making it happen.

Do more than just talk about what you’d like to do, or what you should be doing, or what you plan to do. Take the persistent actions that will actually get it done.

Within your vision of how life can be, there is great value, ready and waiting to be expressed. Bring that vision to life, and bring that value into being.

Give your dreams the power of focused attention and committed, disciplined effort. Feel how great it feels to make a meaningful difference in your life and in your world.

Achievement is not only something you can do, it is something you have a deep and abiding longing to do. So make your days truly rich by using them to achieve.

Achievement is essential to the great and wonderful experience of being alive, of being you. Give yourself the gift of fulfillment by keeping yourself working to make a real and positive impact on life.

Ralph Marston

 

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Hate is an invisible chain

 

 

“Hate is an invisible chain.”

When you don’t let go of hate, you let the thing or person you hate maintain control over you. You allow the hatred to keep the channels of negative energy open, sucking out positive emotions and holding you back from true happiness.

Cut off the hate and move on! When you cleanse your mind and soul of grudges and negative thoughts, you make new room for positive emotions and joy. Take a moment today to consciously let go of all hatred. Savor the new energy that you’ll feel bursting through to take its place!

©Jane Powell  

THE FINER POINTS OF POSITIVE MOTIVATION

One wife waited patiently, then impatiently, for her husband to repair the lawn mower as he had promised. One day, not wanting to confront him in anger, she tried another tack. That was the day he came home and found her seated on the ground snipping grass with sewing scissors, one blade at a time. He watched in absolute amazement. Then he went into the house and returned with a toothbrush. "Honey," he said, "when you finish cutting the grass would you mind sweeping the sidewalks?"

They both laughed. And, more importantly, he turned his attention to the mower.

We've all been there. We want to encourage a child to do her homework, or a spouse to complete a project, or a colleague to follow through. How can we encourage without criticizing, nagging, berating or pushing?

Maybe because I'm the one that occasionally has to be nudged, I've learned a few important things about the finer points of positive motivation.

First, whenever possible, try to keep it light-hearted. The careful use of humor can work in any relationship to make the point in a way it will be heard. Sometimes we are so frustrated we know that however we say it, it will be bound to come out wrong. These are especially the times when humor may be needed.

Second, without exception, be polite and respectful. Sometimes it's more about how we say it than what we say. Too much of the world is run on the theory that you don't need road manners if you drive a five-ton truck. No one wants to be forced, pushed, run over, cajoled or manipulated. They want to be respected.

Finally, as often as you can, show appreciation. Novelist Arnold Bennett had a publisher who boasted about the consistently exceptional work of his assistant. One day while visiting the publisher's office, Bennett struck up a conversation with the valued employee. He told her what her boss said about her work. "What's your secret?" he asked.

"It's not my secret," said the assistant, "it's his." She went on to tell him that her boss always acknowledges and appreciates everything she does, regardless how insignificant. That is why she finds it so easy to take pride in her work. The appreciation of her employer nudges her toward constant improvement.

These are a few of the finer points of positive motivation. And even if motivating is not your purpose, respect and appreciation, topped off with a little humor is bound to improve any relationship.

Steve Goodier

 

Now and later

You don’t have to sacrifice present joy and richness for future value, and you don’t have to compromise your future to enjoy right now. You can choose to live richly and joyfully in the present while also being positively responsible for your future.

Sure there are momentary pleasures that will have a negative impact on your future. Yet you can fully enjoy this moment without resorting to those empty, fleeting pleasures.

Yes, there are responsibilities you must tend to right now in order to create a more positive future. But there’s no need to feel burdened or oppressed by them.

In fact, one of the best ways to enjoy the present moment is by being productive and creative and focused on a meaningful positive purpose. Instead of filling your moments with shallow pleasures that will soon be gone, you can fill your life with deep, profound joy that will continue to grow stronger.

Being disciplined and responsible toward your own future is not really a sacrifice at all. When you continue to remind yourself of the value of what you’re doing, it is a constant source of satisfaction and abiding richness.

Make the choices that will enrich your future while also drinking in every bit of the richness of right now. Live with authentic positive presence and purpose, and you can have it all.

 Ralph Marston

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