How to Get Respect

by Jane Powell

“People respect you as much as you respect yourself.”

Ever wonder what it is about some women that commands respect? Is it the way they walk? Perhaps it’s the way they talk? Or maybe it is the way they dress? Some of this may be true, but the real secret to respect is having respect for yourself.
Self-respect is about self-confidence, self-affirmation and self-caring. Be proud of what you do, who you are, what you stand for, where you come from and where you’re going.
When you practice self-respect two things happen. You’re less tolerant of disrespect from others and you set an example of how you expect to be treated.
Try it, you’ll get amazing results!

 

Contentment - It's All in the Mind

Did you know that you can actually “trick” your brain into thinking you’re happy Dr. David Lykken, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Minnesota says, “Emotions are a combination of internal feelings and physical responses that provide feedback to your brain.” In effect, you can consciously initiate or provide the mental and physical conditions that your brain will naturally translate into feelings and emotions -- you basically have the power to influence your mood.

Try it for yourself

Smile even when you don't feel like it. You'll think it’s silly but studies have shown that people who force themselves to smile eventually develop a more positive attitude towards challenges and setbacks. Smile the moment you wake up. Smile as you put yourself to sleep. Smile at everyone you meet.

Laugh at the pettiest things. Get some air into those lungs! More oxygen, more energy, brighter day! Ten minutes of laughter a day –- that’s all you need to ensure a life of contentment. You'll be surprised that in Asia, some companies have employed a daily “laughter break”. Employees have to walk to a park, form a circle, and force themselves to laugh non-stop for 15 minutes. Company executives swear that this relaxation break has caused worker enthusiasm and productivity to soar!

Stand tall and walk fast. Remember your teacher in second grade She tapped you with a ruler, screaming, “No slouching! Chin up! Walk tall!” You had no idea that she wasn't just insisting on good posture, she was also making sure you developed a bright and confident outlook in life!

Stretch -– better yet, exercise! Don’t “think” about your workout -– just do it! If you pause, to think about the sweat, the pain, the monotony and the time, you'll find one excuse or other not to do it. So, don't rationalize. Just get up and do it. You know that at the end of the workout, you'll feel good you did it. And if you’re not exactly the workout kind, try dancing!

Think only positive thoughts, speak only positive words. Every time you start to think or say something negative, stop. Change your sentences into the positive. Pessimists complain about their problems; optimists think of solutions. Advise, rather than criticize. Encourage, inspire, motivate –- yourself and others. Pick up a lesson, rather than blame. And always count your blessings.

These are just a few of the many ways you can jump start an overall feeling of happiness and contentment. Remember that your emotions are dictated by your perception of the world around you. And your reactions are a product of choice -- you can “choose” to be happy, angry or sad. As Ecrivain Lesage wrote in “Histoire de Gil Blas” in 1735, “I am happy and content because I think I am.”

 

You are not a victim of circumstance. You are a beneficiary of possibility.
Difficult conditions do not impose a burden. 

They deliver opportunity, in great abundance.

No matter what happens or what fails to happen,

there is always a kernel of goodness and positive possibility to be found.

Decide to see it, decide to harness it, decide to make the most of it, and you will.

Circumstances, as powerful and disruptive as they may be,

do not have any driving purpose or intention. You, on the other hand, do.

When you connect with that purpose, and energize that intention,

you can bring great triumph out of any situation.

With a strong and clearly defined purpose, everything becomes an opportunity.

See what is, and translate it into the best of what can be.

Any time is right, when you are ready.

Ralph Marston

 

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