Needing a Nudge

 

 NEEDING A NUDGE 

A wiser person than I once said that humans have four basic needs.

One is the need to be nurtured. Next is the need to be needed.
Third, the need to be noticed. And finally, the need to be nudged.

Although I never had much luck nudging my own children,

I've often thought of a story about a small boy who could not be nudged to quit
banging a drum. Various attempts were made to do something about
quieting the child.

One person told the boy that he would, if he continued to make so
much noise, perforate his eardrums. This reasoning was too advanced
for the child, who was neither a scientist nor a scholar.

A second person told him that drum beating was a sacred activity and
should be carried out only on special occasions.

A third person offered the neighbors plugs for their ears;

a fourth gave the boy a book;

a fifth gave the neighbors books that described a method of
controlling anger through biofeedback; a sixth person gave the boy
meditation exercises to make him placid and docile.

None of these attempts worked.

Eventually, a wise person came along with an effective motivation.
He looked at the situation, handed the child a hammer and chisel,
and asked, "I wonder what is INSIDE the drum?"

No more problem.

I agree that we sometimes need to be nudged.

At times, we may need to be nudged into healthier behaviors.

Or maybe nudged out of destructive relationships or patterns.

Or simply nudged to think a little bigger;

to do or be a something more challenging and less mediocre.

No doubt, that is why the motivational industry is so successful.
(And no, it is probably not true that if you listen to your
motivational tapes backwards you will become a failure.

I think a couple of you may have been worried about that.)

It seems to me that good leaders know about this basic human need to
be prodded, challenged and encouraged. They also know that the best
way to nudge someone is often simply to invite them along a path
that is more appealing than the one they've chosen. The best leaders
teach us to dream and tempt us to do more than we ever thought
possible. They challenge us to be a part of something great.

Writer Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, "If you want to build a ship,
don't drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work, and give
orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea."
Sometimes all we need is a nudge to desire something magnificent.

Is this the nudge you need?

Steve Goodier

 

Let Go of Grudges

by Jane Powell 

“Holding grudges will consume your emotional energy… if you let it.”

Holding grudges uses lots of emotional energy. And, when your emotional energy is tied up in a grudge, it holds you in the past. Grudges hold energy hostage and it’s not until you forgive that your energy can be restored.

Think of forgiveness as something you do for yourself.

Think of it as something that makes you stronger, not weaker.

If you’re holding grudges, let them go. Seek reconciliation if needed. If you find it hard to forgive then start with the small grudges and work your way up. The physical feeling of relief and the energy reclaimed will be well worth it.

Forgive today. It’s time to move on!

 

Receiving abundance

The way to receive life's abundance is to express it.

The way to receive life's abundance is to do something creative and useful with it.
There is always something valuable that you can create with your time, your thoughts and actions. In every moment, in every situation, there is something you can do to express life's abundance.

Whatever you're able to create may not be something you particularly desire or require, but that's ok. Because there are other people who wish to have it,

and who will happily pay you for it with something else of value to you.

In ways that are familiar and in ways that haven't yet been imagined, you can create value. With gratitude in your heart, and a desire to give meaning to life, you can create value.

You are surrounded by a sea of abundance. You are alive and aware and highly effective, in a universe that's overflowing with possibilities.

Through your own unique perspective, you can transform that raw,

formless abundance into specific, tangible value. That is how wealth is created, 

and there is no limit to how much of it you can create. 

Ralph Marston

 

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