The Cost of Living Up To the Expectations of Others

 

 

The Cost of Living Up To the Expectations of Others
by Jane Powell

 

“You are your own best judge.”

 

When you start judging yourself by looking through the eyes of your parents, husband, friends, or boss, you end up running around doing more and more in an effort to gain their approval. It does not take long before you end up feeling exhausted, resentful and ready to give up.

 

Trying to live your life by the expectations of others disconnects you from your own desires. It leaves you feeling empty and unmotivated. The gratification that comes from fulfilling the expectations of others is very little and short-lived.

 

Reclaim the energy and happiness that is rightfully yours! Be your own judge and live by your own expectations. As you reclaim your potential, you will thrive and feel energized, because you are accomplishing things that are important to you. Start today!

 

WHAT ARE YOU DREAMING ABOUT?

 

The agricultural school dean was interviewing a freshman. "Why have
you chosen this career?" he asked.

 

"I dream of making a million dollars in farming, like my father,"
replied the freshman.

 

The dean was impressed. "Your father made a million dollars in
farming?"

 

"No," the student said. "But he always dreamed of it."

 

All right. That was corny. But at least this student has a dream,
even if it is only a dream about money.

 

I prefer the story of a man who was discussing with his wife a trip
he wanted to take to Alaska. He told her he'd always dreamed of such
an adventure. He wanted to travel deep into the wilderness. He
wanted to rough it. He talked about how exciting it would be to stay
in a log cabin without electricity, to hunt caribou and drive a dog
team instead of a car.

 

"If we decided to live there permanently, away from civilization,
what would you miss the most?" he asked his partner.

 

She replied, "You."

 

His dream; not hers. A better dream might include her.

 

This is a time of year we often examine our dreams and goals. I've
found a couple of questions helpful when I consider which dreams to
chase and which to leave alone.

 

First, does my dream have deep meaning? Or put another way, is it
significant and important enough to commit my time and energy
toward? What will it ultimately mean if I accomplish this thing I
think I want? Probably the pursuit of prosperity alone will not
bring the kind of meaning you desire at a deeper level.

 

The second question is similar. Does my dream spring from the best
that is within me? Does it come from a place of love or altruism?
Will my life and the lives of those I love be better for it? My best
dreams include those I love.

 

What are you dreaming about?

 

Steve Goodier

 

 

Create a reward for yourself, and then go get that reward. Give yourself something to look forward to, and let it motivate you.
Make it a wonderful, inspiring reward. Make it rich and exciting.

 

When you're working your way toward something delightful, nothing can get you down. When you have something to look forward to, you'll do whatever is necessary to get yourself there.

 

With a clearly defined objective, it's easy to figure out what to do next. Eager anticipation fills you with powerful and effective enthusiasm.

 

If you have trouble getting yourself moving, take a fresh look at what you're moving toward. Give yourself a good enough reason, give yourself a desirable enough reward, and plenty of motivation will naturally come.

 

Create a reward you can truly and enthusiastically look forward to. And let it get you moving.

 

Ralph Marston

 

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